Never Blame the Bullet

It's important to be mindful of the amount of energy you expend when dealing with people who lack emotional intelligence. These individuals may try to push your buttons in order to control or manipulate your reactions, with the aim of keeping you in their orbit while they hold out hope that you'll see the good in them. Your compassion may lead you to give them another chance, even though they don't deserve it. Remember, forgiveness is the key to true reconciliation, not simply reacting to their behavior. You are responsible for your own actions, words, and the relationships you build - whether they promote growth or merely enable failure. Be a source of support for one another, offering guidance, accountability, and a safe haven in times of need. Avoid becoming predictable and using hurtful words as weapons. Choose instead to foster compassion, empathy, and understanding.

Scripturual Context: Proverbs 17:27 (NLT) "A wise man keeps it brief and maintains his composure."

1. Choose Words Wisely: This verse reminds us that smart guys don't talk endlessly. When dealing with individuals, especially those with low emotional intelligence, using concise language can help avoid unnecessary conflicts and keep things straightforward.

2. Stay Calm and Collected: It also encourages us to remain composed. When facing situations with people who may try to provoke emotional reactions, it's essential for men to maintain their cool. Keeping emotions in check demonstrates maturity and strength.

3. Listen Actively: To be a wise and composed man, be an attentive listener. Those with low emotional intelligence may have unexpressed concerns or issues. By being a good listener, you create a safe environment for them to open up, potentially improving your connection and fostering growth in your relationships.